Tips and tricks for soothing a crying newborn baby

The sound of a newborn's cry: sharp, persistent, and very emotionally painful for a parent. It’s like your little one has a secret superpower to make you drop everything and rush to their side. But how to calm a restless newborn? Don't worry; you’re not alone. We have got you covered. 

So, let’s dive into some practical, down-to-earth tips and tricks, like the 5s method, that actually work when soothing your crying newborn. After all, it’s all about finding what works best for you and your baby. 

Ready to learn some magic tricks to calm down your newborn? Let’s get started!

What to expect?

Today, we will explore evidence-based strategies that can help calm your little one and restore some tranquility to your home. From gentle rocking to the magic of white noise, we’ve got you covered with techniques that even the most seasoned parents swear by. Here is what you will get to know:

Understanding baby crying

Let's explore the mysterious world of baby cries! Your little one may not be able to talk yet, but oh boy, can they make some noise. From the subtle whimper to the all-out wail, each cry has its own story to tell. 

Here’s the thing: it’s not just random noise. Your little one’s cry actually tells you a lot, and with time (and a little trial and error), you’ll start recognizing the difference between the "I’m hungry" wail and the "I need a nap" whimper. But for now, let’s keep it simple and look at the most common reasons babies cry:

  • Hunger
  • Dirty diaper
  • Tiredness 
  • Discomfort or pain
  • Overstimulation 

👶 Pointers to keep in mind:

  • Babies cry as a form of communication, indicating their needs or discomfort.
  • Crying is a natural and healthy way for babies to express themselves, so don't worry if your little one gets vocal.
  • Each baby is unique, so it may take some time to learn your baby's specific cues and cries.
  • Remember, crying is a normal part of infant development and does not always indicate a serious issue.

So, while the crying can feel endless at times, it’s just your baby’s way of communicating. You'll get better at reading those cues as time goes on. But in the meantime, hang in there! 

Happy Baby offers a variety of soothing sounds, including white noise, lullabies, and custom sleep soundscapes. With this app, you can create a soothing environment for babies to calm them down and help them drift off to sleep! 

Essential needs check to calm a restless newborn

When your newborn’s crying, it can feel like you’ve tried everything, and yet, they’re still not happy. But before you go into full-on panic mode, let’s hit the basics. Think of it as a little detective work, but with fewer magnifying glasses and more cuddles.

Here’s what to check first:

1. Is it feeding time?

Babies get hungry fast, like, super fast. If it’s been a while since their last snack, offer a bottle or breast. A full tummy might just be the golden ticket.

2. Is the diaper dry?

A soggy or dirty diaper can be pretty uncomfortable. Check for leaks or discomfort and change it if needed.

3. Tight swaddle or loose clothing?

Check for any tight spots in your baby’s clothes or swaddle. Comfort is key, and sometimes a little adjustment goes a long way.

4. Too hot or too cold?

Newborns can’t regulate their temperature as well as we can. Feel their neck or back. If they’re sweaty, they’re too warm; if they’re chilly, layer them up.

5. Need a burp?

Gas pains can be a real mood killer. Try burping your baby gently after a feed and see if that helps calm the fussiness.

6. Are they too overstimulated?

A lot of noise, bright lights, or too much activity can make your baby restless. Try dimming the lights and creating a calmer space for them to unwind.

7. Do they need a nap?

If your baby’s fighting sleep, they’re probably overtired, just like we are when we’re over-caffeinated. Try gently rocking them to sleep or creating a quiet environment.

8. Want a cuddle?

Sometimes, your baby just wants to be close. Hold them, rock them, or try a gentle sway. Your baby may just need the reassurance of your touch.

9. Is their tummy upset?

If they’re arching their back and clenching their fists, your baby might have tummy trouble. A gentle tummy massage or a warm bath could work wonders.

If you go through this checklist and still can’t pinpoint the issue, take a deep breath. It’s okay to feel frustrated. But remember, you’re doing your best, and it’s all part of the learning process.

5 Ss method to calm a crying newborn

When it feels like nothing is working to calm your  newborn, it's time to try the "5 S's" method. Developed by pediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp, this method has been a game-changer for many parents looking to soothe their little one [1]. 

It’s like a secret formula for baby calmness, and you can do it right from the comfort of your living room. Here’s how it works:

1. Swaddle

This is a classic one, but it works. Wrapping your baby snugly in a soft blanket mimics the warmth and security of the womb, giving them a sense of comfort. Just make sure it’s not too tight. Think of it like a cozy hug that helps them feel safe and secure.

2. Side or stomach position

Babies should always sleep on their backs. But when it comes to calming a newborn, holding them on their side or stomach (while you’re awake and attentive, of course) can work wonders. The change in position can be soothing, and the gentle pressure on their tummy might help relieve gas.

3. Shush

This one might feel a little silly at first, but your baby will thank you. The sound of “shhhhhh” is calming because it mimics the white noise they heard in the womb. You can do this by shushing gently in their ear or even using a white noise machine (or app, because, hey, technology!). It’s like a calming lullaby they can’t resist.

4. Swing

A little gentle rocking or swaying can work like magic. Newborns love movement! It reminds them of being in the womb, where they were rocked with every step you took. Try gently swaddling your baby and then rocking them in your arms or using a baby swing (be careful not to overdo it). A steady, rhythmic motion is all they need.

5. Suck

Whether it’s a pacifier or your finger, sucking is incredibly soothing for newborns. It activates a calming reflex that can help reduce stress and anxiety. It’s also a great way to help them self-soothe and take the edge off a crying spell. 

Give this method a try! It’s not a magic trick, but it sure feels like one when you see how quickly it works. And remember, every baby is different! What works for one might not work for another. But with patience, you’ll find the right balance of comfort for your little one.

With Happy Baby you can get a wide range of white noise music, lullabies and more along with advanced AI technology which will create a personalized sleeping schedule for you baby. All sounds are ad-free and developed specifically for babies.

 

Comforting techniques to calm a newborn

There are a bunch of comforting techniques that can help calm your little one, and some of them are even surprisingly simple. So, let’s explore some tried-and-true methods that can make a world of difference:

  • Rock & sway: A gentle rock or stroll around the room mimics the soothing motions of the womb. Think of it as your baby’s personal lullaby dance. 
  • Tummy rubs: A soft massage on their tummy in a clockwise motion can ease gas and discomfort. It’s like giving them a mini spa treatment.
  • Warm bath time: A warm bath can work wonders. It’s like a cozy, liquid hug. Make sure the water’s just right; nothing too hot! 
  • Soothing sounds: White noise, lullabies, or even the hum of a vacuum. Whatever it takes to get those little ears relaxed. 
  • Pacifier rescue: If your baby’s not hungry but needs comfort, a pacifier can be the magic fix. It’s like a mini "chill pill" for them. 
  • Cuddle close: Sometimes, a snuggle is all your baby needs. Hold them close and feel their calmness seep into you. 
  • Babywearing to the rescue: Pop your little one into a carrier for comfort and closeness while you get things done. Multitasking, baby style! 
  • Swing the baby: A baby swing can give you a break while keeping your baby calm with gentle rocking. It’s like a mini vacation for both of you! 

Sometimes, less is more. These quick, creative tricks can help turn a fussy baby into a calm, happy one in no time. 😌

Managing parental stress to help calm a newborn

Parenting can feel like an emotional rollercoaster, especially with a crying newborn in the mix. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the constant demands, but here’s the thing: your stress affects your baby, too.

The calmer you are, the easier it is to comfort them, and yourself. So, let’s talk about some simple ways to manage parental stress, because you deserve to be at your best for both you and your little one.

1. Take breaks 

Step away for a moment when you need it. A quick 10-minute breather can help clear your mind. It’s okay to leave your baby safely in their crib while you catch your breath. This reset helps you stay calm and collected when you return.

2. Ask for help 

Don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Whether it’s a partner, family member, or friend, letting someone else pitch in gives you time to recharge. You don’t have to do it all alone, and your baby will benefit from seeing you at your best.

3. Breathe deeply 

Take a few slow, deep breaths when you feel your stress mounting. This helps you stay grounded and reduces tension. It’s like hitting a “reset” button for your mind, so you can approach the situation with a clearer head.

4. Get some "me time" 

Even if it’s just a hot shower or 15 minutes with a cup of tea, carving out time for yourself helps you feel refreshed. You’re a better parent when you take care of YOU. Remember, happy parents = happy babies.

5. Stay active 

Go for a walk with your baby in the stroller or take a quick stretch break. Physical activity helps release stress-relieving endorphins and boosts your mood. Plus, getting some fresh air works wonders for both of you.

6. Let go of perfection 

You don’t have to be perfect, and neither does your baby. Take things one step at a time. Lowering your expectations (just a bit!) will ease a lot of the pressure and make everything feel more manageable.

7. Laugh it off 

Find humor in the chaos. Laughter really is the best medicine, and it can turn a stressful situation into something lighter. Plus, your baby will enjoy your laughter, even if they don’t understand it.

8. Stay connected 

Keep in touch with other parents, whether through a support group or just chatting with a friend. You’re not the only one dealing with the ups and downs of parenthood, and sharing experiences can make you feel less alone.

Stress is a part of parenting, there’s no getting around it. But managing it is key. When you’re more relaxed, your baby will feel it, too. Keep taking care of yourself; your little one will thank you for it (in their own baby way, of course!).

When to seek help

Sometimes, despite all your best efforts, your baby’s crying doesn’t seem to let up. It’s tough to know when it’s time to seek professional help. While crying is normal, there are signs that could mean something more serious. Here’s when to reach out for assistance:

  • Seek help for severe symptoms 🚨If crying is accompanied by trouble breathing, vomiting, or extreme fatigue, contact a healthcare professional.
  • Prolonged crying calls for a doctor 📞Crying for over 3 hours, or crying that seems different, warrants a call to your baby’s pediatrician.
  • Watch for illness symptoms 🤒If your baby has a fever (over 100.4°F/38°C) or is vomiting, it’s time to seek medical advice.
  • Use helplines for support 📱Feeling overwhelmed? Helplines can offer quick, reassuring advice and help you decide what to do next.

It’s natural to worry when your baby’s crying isn’t easing up, but knowing when to seek help can make all the difference. Stay confident, you are not alone in this!

Short & Sweet

Parenting a newborn isn’t a walk in the park. It’s more like a wild sprint, complete with hiccups and a lot of crying! But remember, you’re doing amazing. Every fussy moment is just a part of the journey. Patience is key, and sometimes it’s a matter of trying different techniques until you find what works for your little one. And hey, don’t forget that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so take time for yourself, even if it’s just a 5-minute break with your favorite snack. You've got this!

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FAQ - Everything else you should know

1. Can I spoil my newborn by picking them up when they cry?

2. Is it normal for my baby to cry after feeding?

3. How do I know why my baby is crying?

4. How can I soothe my baby without picking them up all the time?

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Sources

  1. Singh, J.K. and Menahem, S. (2023) 'The five “S’s” and the “SNOO” Smart Sleeper—non-pharmacological interventions (NPI) to promote sleep and reduce crying of infants: a scoping review,' Translational Pediatrics, 12(8), pp. 1527–1539. https://doi.org/10.21037/tp-23-42